tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-66901428081293068962023-11-15T09:56:21.439-08:00Simon Caira's BlogWherein we discuss our lives, our growth, our potential and our dreams.Simon Cairahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09231762833393095749noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690142808129306896.post-33783093738819541732013-11-07T10:33:00.000-08:002013-11-07T10:33:14.095-08:00Who do you think you are?
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;">I remember winning on
the Grand National with a tri-cast bet back in 1984. The Grand National was
something that I'd grown up with: we'd watched it as a family over the years.</span></span></div>
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;"><div class="MsoNormal">
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</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;">I’d witnessed the win on
TV after flicking over from a world title boxing match I'd been watching with
great interest. I’d seen the beginning of the race and thought I had no chance,
so switched over and watched the boxing for a while before flicking back in
time to catch the middle of the race. Two of my three horses were still nowhere
to be seen so I quickly returned to the boxing. After a while I returned to the
race, which was nearing it’s finale, in time to witness that from nowhere the 3
horses I had picked to come in the top 3 in any order miraculously crossed the
line 1<sup>st</sup> 2<sup>nd</sup> and 3<sup>rd</sup> and presented me with my
win. The first thing I thought was. ‘What? That can't be right…’ Then I
remember thinking, ‘I’ve won!’ Then more doubt slipped in, ‘No way, I don’t
believe it! They were going nowhere. I must have it wrong.’ Then I rushed to
check my ticket and sure enough, to my surprise, I wasn’t dreaming. I watched
the replay and witnessed how the race had been won. Against all odds, these
three beautiful creatures had somehow come in 1-2 - and 3. Even watching it
again on Youtube whilst writing this, I still find it amazing how it came to
be.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;"><div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;">I know one thing for
sure: The chain of events that followed my win faithfully upheld my self-image
and supported what I believed to be true about myself at that time.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;"><div class="MsoNormal">
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</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75;">I should have picked
up over £1,200 for my £1.20 bet. But the bet, which had been written out by a
betting clerk upon my request, had in fact been written out wrongly and was deemed
as void. Can you imagine? My only saving grace was that the manager was aware
that his clerk had written out the bet for me and kindly intervened. It took
him over a week but he finally managed to get his head office to agree to pay a
quarter of the winnings in good faith. I picked up around £300. Ok, not
great... but it was something. A big something: that was around two months pay
for me at the time. I was still very pleased.</span></span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #351c75; font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><div class="MsoNormal">
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I bought a second-hand
car with my winnings, which turned out to be a bad buy and I soon spent a lot
of extra money on major repairs before the car was stolen one Sunday night, the
night before the MOT was being done, so it ended up that I wasn’t legally
insured and received no insurance compensation payment. Very unfortunate. Very
me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">At the time I never
would have considered myself to be a lucky person. A trail of tragic events had
held my family at bay, in grief, trauma and sadness for a 9-year period when I
was aged 10 – 18. That period had only come off the boil 3 years previously and
things were still not great: I was renting a room with a friend after my
parents had split up and sold the family home, about 6 months prior to that Grand
National day. So I guess it's fair to say I really didn’t consider myself to be
a lucky kind of guy; I was probably even laying-in-wait for the next tragedy to
strike, which in many ways was completely understandable.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I guess on a coaching
level, had I sat myself down and asked a few questions on the day of the race,
the writing was probably already on the wall.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Q. What kind of person
do you think you are?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A. Not so lucky, I
guess.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Q. What’s the real
reason you believe that specifically?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A. Life’s been like
that for me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Q. Have you ever been
lucky?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A. I guess so, when I
was much younger.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Q. Finish this
statement. The reason my life is the way it is, is because…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A. We’re an unlucky
family.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Q. And this statement:
The REAL reason my life is like this is because…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A. Somebody up there
doesn’t like me.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The truth is, I'd had
many things happen to me that <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">were</i>
what you would consider to be lucky, but inside I didn’t feel that way and so
didn’t notice things that would support ‘I’m lucky’ as a reality for me.
(Remember my blog about Beliefs?)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The greatest questions
you can ask yourself are around the issue of identity and self-image. And so
they should be. Identity beliefs and statements affect so much of our personality,
actions and behaviours and directly influence our moment-by-moment life experiences
that it is imperative there be a high level of importance surrounding the world
of ‘WHAT KIND OF PERSON DO I THINK I AM?’.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Your reality
accurately reflects your beliefs about your identity. Your actions completely
align with and support who you believe you are, and your greatest motivational
pushes come from an absolute inner requirement to be integral to the way in
which you define yourself. That's right... The way in which YOU define yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">We may have had an
identity belief passed to us from someone else - a teacher, a friend, a
relation or whoever. What's important to remember here is that we have the
ability to let go of any beliefs that no longer support us. I remember a
particular teacher who, because I was left handed, told me I'd never amount to
anything if I continued to write and draw with my left hand and he even decided
it was within his rights to say, in front of the whole class I might add, 'Only
idiots use their left hands to write and draw,' then he demanded I use my right
hand, which of course presented me a real problem, and I tried. He was
standing-in for the morning so didn't really know me and wasn't aware that at
the time I was considered by my classmates to be the best drawer in the school,
a status I was very proud of, and he obviously never knew about Lewis Carroll,
H.G. Wells, Da Vinci, Michelangelo, Einstein, Aristotle and other cool
left-handers like Lord Nelson, Neil Armstrong, Monroe, Hendrix, Pele,</span><span lang="EN-US" style="mso-bidi-font-family: Times; mso-bidi-font-size: 16.0pt;">
Navratilova,</span><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"> Garland, Chaplin,
Churchill, Joan of Arc and Bobby Charlton to name but a few. And maybe he'd
have thought twice about inflicting a possible character assassination on me if
he'd known about Henry Cooper's left hand HAMMER! Oh, we can dream... What a
moment that would've been: <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">News
Headline: </b>Schoolteacher knocked out by tubby child in front of packed
classroom. 3 left-handed kids told off for cheering.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I guess the real
problem was I actually liked the guy and trusted his opinion so a little belief
in his ridiculous attack on me must have settled into me. I remember trying to
write with my right hand for a while but it just didn't do it for me. I do
however know that even though I was a child in the company of an adult I
trusted it still came down to me in the end, whether I believed him or not.
It's us that own these beliefs and we can choose now to let them go. And we can
also choose to enable our children to be more resilient to the outside negative
influences of irresponsible others. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">So… I'm curious to
know... What kind of person do you think you are?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Make an honest list of
ten 'I am' statements, e.g., I am blessed. I am frightened. I am bold. I am
shy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Let it all out, faults
and all. Start there right now, before you read on.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now you can help uncover
some more of your core identity definitions by finishing the following
statements:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-tab-count: 1;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The reason my life is
the way it is, is because I am ________________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My relationships turn
out the way they do because I am ____________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My childhood was the
way it was because I was _________________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">People treat me the
way they do because I am ___________________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My financial situation
is the way it is because I am ________________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I always seem to end
up in the same situation because I am _________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My health is the way
it is because I am _________________________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">My levels of success
are the way they are because I am ____________________________<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">And please feel free
to add your own personalised statements.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now just make a rough
guess at when you first started to believe these definitions of yourself and
your abilities. Put a date/year next to them now.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">It's also quite
liberating to identify where you think the belief might have come from: Did
someone give it to you? If so who? Did you attach to it yourself? Was there a
book, a film or a character - real or fictional - you associated with that led
to you having that belief? This will really aid you in letting go of the
belief.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I’m guessing some of
these previous identity decisions are quite old - in some cases even decades
old - and the fact is they have become the defining framework and status quo
for your outcomes, levels of success and happiness in your life. It’s great if
you’ve got all supportive identity statements in place. It’s a real tragedy if
they’re limiting you and working against you. Even controlling you. They are a
real yet hidden burden: Basically, they are great big balls and chains!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I have had the
displeasure of having some seriously hindering balls and chains. And I
developed them when I was quite young. They affected the way I stood, breathed,
thought, walked, acted, played and communicated: It can be restrictive in every
area of life as they unconsciously tie you down. Most of the time you don't even
recognise it as a limiting force working against you, you simply struggle along
– sometimes even with a bounce - with the belief that that’s just who you are.
And you adapt, e.g., curb your enthusiasm, play it safe, don’t expect to move
much, avoid the stresses of trying or failing, abandon your dreams, keep it
real so people will like you or feel safe with you, even respect you. In some
cases these limitations become so heavy and restraining that you can simply end
up giving up and existing, rather than living. And as you journey through life
these unforgiving restraints can end up grinding you to a halt, and you can even
end up buried under your balls and chains. And that stinks!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">These hidden restrictions
can be passed through the generations: Children can unwittingly develop them and
own them too. Boys and girls alike. Balls and chains placed upon them,
unconsciously much of the time, by the people who love them most. "Happy
Birthday, little one. Here... put these on." And it goes on. And much of
the time it's not even realised. But it's a cycle that can be broken. You can...
snap out of it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Identity is something
that is instrumental and influential to the degree that if you work on it and
decide you’d like to make changes to the statements and declarations concerning
the sort of person that you think you are, your whole life will be influenced.
All it takes is some really achievable, worthwhile effort.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">So how would life be
if you were to break free from your balls and chains?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">To be able to break
free, all it takes is real determination and a strong dedication to something
clearly bigger, better and more beneficial than what you are experiencing at
the present moment. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">I’ve just remembered
something that is relevant. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">One sunny Autumn day I
was sitting on a park bench quietly contemplating life, or my next move or
something, when a dog scampered towards me, sniffed around my rucksack on the
ground, sniffed around my feet, then circled in front of me wagging it’s tail
in blissful doggy vibes. It was a <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">seriously</i>
happy dog. Immediately it made me feel playful. Suddenly a well-to-do female
voice shouted out, “Tiggy. Tiggy come here. Come on Tiggy... That’s nobody.” It
took a moment then it hit me. Eh? N<span style="text-transform: uppercase;">obody</span>?
Is that where I’m at? I was quite taken aback. I looked over at the woman. Charming,
I thought. Was the Universe delivering me a clear message of who I truly believed
I was? Maybe. I believe it can happen. “I haven’t been called that in years. Not
since school.” I commented humorously, which caused a sudden flush of pink to cover
her face. She apologised – which was unnecessary - then scurried away, Tiggy
following her then running ahead to find <span style="text-transform: uppercase;">somebody</span>…
It really made me think. Nobody? Anyway…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">So… Are you ready to now
consider making influential changes to your beliefs about who you believe you are,
and effectively change your life experiences?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">If so, take a look at
your list and begin detecting the unhelpful actions and behaviours that you
consistently do, so as to keep all the negative identity level beliefs true.
Things like: I sit down too often. I criticise others. I don’t make the calls.
I let the place get messy. I'm scared. I lay in bed too long. I moan a lot. I
watch too much TV. I eat too much. I make mistakes. I don’t speak to people.
I’m easily distracted. I procrastinate. I doubt myself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">You get the idea.
Write them down.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now check down your original
lists of 'I AM' statements and simply put in the opposite equal to all the
limiting definitions you gave: The ones that you can honestly agree would hold
you back. Make a firm and positive statement as an opposite equal. For
instance:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The reason my life is
the way it is, is because I am ________<u>LAZY</u>_______<u>1985</u>___<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">The opposite equal
would be along the lines of FULL OF ENERGY, FULL OF LIFE, or ACTIVE AND
EFFECTIVE.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">NOTE: To change it to
NOT LAZY is remaining in the negative. Luckily I remembered to mention that
little nugget.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Write down the
opposite equal positive definitions to all of your limiting definitions now.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now take a good look
at your new identity definitions. Is that a good fit? Do you like the way it looks
and sounds? Make any adjustments you'd like to make. These become your new
identity statements. Read over them again now, and get a feel for it all:
Imagine, this is you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Read them again and this
time really feel what it's like to own these new positive qualities. Really
feel them even more now.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now write the answers
to these simple questions, referring to your new list:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What would
a person like this believe about their capabilities?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What kind
of expectations would this person have?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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of places would they hang out?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What kind
of things would this person do in their lives each day, so as to keep a
momentum going and keep achieving happiness?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What kind
of experiences would this person like to have?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">How does
this person feel?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What must
this person have on their list of ‘must have’ standards and values?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">In what
ways would this person like to grow even more?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">What must
you do differently on a day-to-day basis, in order for you to keep in line with
this list of ‘I AM’ definitions?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">How does
this person contribute to the lives of others?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">How would
this person be able to give, and make improvements to the world?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now take a look at your
lists and answers and take just a little more time to determine some more actions
and behaviours you can follow through with, so as to keep all this identity
level beliefs stuff true. Things like: I exercise. I always make the calls. I happily
make a list of things to do. I enthusiastically keep my place tidy. I use my
time well… You get the idea. Whatever works well for you. This is quality fuel
for your new you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now imagine living
this way and imagine how you’ll feel living this way. Imagine it all as clear
as possible. Feel it fully.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Now commit to the
actions and behaviours you've listed. 'I commit to...'<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">This can be the new
you. This can be how you act in life. This can easily be the new true you.
You've already felt its greatness. Enjoy it. Bring it on!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">There’s a lot of truth
in the statement I AM WHATEVER I THINK I AM.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Consider the truth in
an epitaph that reads:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">HERE LIES<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">WHO I THOUGHT I WAS<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">NOTHING MORE, NOTHING LESS<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">So… Who do you now choose
to believe you are? I hope you've really gone for it! All out.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">And know this: Once
you decide who you are now, what actions you must make now and onwards, and
what your life must be like from this point forward, you’ll find ways to make
it happen. And it'll find its way to you.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">‘You are the golden key to every door that has
ever been closed. Know this and be yourself.’ </span></b><span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Marvin</i><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">And if you happen to see
me strolling or striding along the road, shout over and tell me who you really are.
And in case we never meet I want you to know that one day there’ll be a stone
or a plaque that’ll read something along the lines of:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">HERE LIES<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">A HAPPY AND FULFILLED PERSON<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">WHO LOVED LIFE<br />
LOVED OTHERS<br />
AND LOVED LIVING LIFE TO THE MAX<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">IN EVERY WAY EVERY DAY<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">“WOW! WHAT A RIDE!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">KEPT GETTING BETTER AND BETTER!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">SORTED!”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Thanks for reading.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Simon Caira<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;">Author of Bish and the
Magic Bow & Arrow<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="mso-ansi-language: EN-GB;"><a href="http://www.bishandthemagicbowandarrow.com/">www.bishandthemagicbowandarrow.com</a><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<!--EndFragment-->Simon Cairahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09231762833393095749noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690142808129306896.post-27774491137726474422012-04-11T10:33:00.000-07:002012-04-11T10:33:14.571-07:00Motivation<br />
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 16pt;">Motivation<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">How do you get a donkey to move?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">I guess it’s fair to say there are many ways; however we tend to rely on only a few.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">1.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">We can try to force it by dragging, pulling, pushing and screaming at it – ‘til we’re blue in the face.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">2.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">We can hit it on the rump with a stick.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">3.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">We can dangle a carrot in front of its nose.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">4.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Or we could simply shoot the donkey in the head, then go and get a better donkey - one that will do as it’s told. Just kidding. Damn Donkey!<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">What do you think you’d prefer to do? Force it? Or go for the carrot or the stick? Or perhaps you actually do prefer the bullet? Whichever is your preference, the truth is the donkey truly needs an incentive, a good reason to move ahead, either <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">away from the pain</b> or <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">towards a reward</b>. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">I know you know what’s coming now, but it has to be said:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Human beings are just the same: So if they don’t do as you tell them, shoot them! Again, just kidding. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">People are motivated to <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">move away from pain</b> – a terrible situation, destructive behaviour, bad health, no wealth, painful relationship worries – or <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">towards pleasure</b> – a reward, a positive goal or outcome: spiritual, emotional, material, improved health, happiness, wealth etc.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Have you ever been forced to do something or go in a certain direction by someone who felt they knew best? It doesn’t really work in the long run and can even make you dig your heels in even more and blindly refuse, sometimes even in spite of the fact that what they are suggesting might actually do you some good. The outcome of such actions usually ends up with everyone losing out. Actually, let’s cut the crap…if someone tries to make you do something, shoot them too! Again, just kidding. The truth is, sometimes someone else can have an incredibly pure vision of what our potential might be if we were to just consider making some simple changes. Had they facilitated <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">towards</b> or <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">away from</b> motivation, instead of just pulling or pushing, or screaming, they may well have achieved their outcome and the success for us which they truly desired. And as far as screaming goes …have you seen my gun?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Accessing the motivations to change will enable giant steps forward and easier attainment of desired outcomes, goals and changes in any area of your life. If that's what you want.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Being aware of what you are moving away from (a stick) is clarifying and powerful in itself. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e. ‘I am sick of carrying this excess weight.’ Good starting point.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Crystalising what you are moving towards is another magic key. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e ‘I’d like to be my ideal weight.’ A good positive statement.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">It’s vital to state what you are moving towards in the positive and in a direct, succinct manner. In this instance, to say ‘I don’t want to be overweight anymore’ would be a statement in the negative. It’s focussing on what you don’t want – the ‘overweight’. Whereas, to set a goal of ‘I’d like to be my ideal weight’ is a direct request and a clear goal stated in the positive.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">A bunch of carrots and a handful of sticks are even better, as I’m sure you can imagine. All you have to do at this point is go further into both the pain you are deciding to move away from and the pleasure you are now moving towards.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Start by asking:</span><br />
<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 15px;"><br /></span></span><br />
<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">In what ways does this excess weight (Stick) affect me? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e (this is the bunch of sticks) ‘I feel uncomfortable, ugly, slow, lacking energy, low in confidence,’ whatever is true of the multiple ways this STICK negatively effects you, others around you and your life in general. This is like loading up the slingshot before you make the shot and really stacking up your reasons will improve your aim and enable you to hit the target. Be honest: To the degree that you are able to be honest with this the more improvements you’ll find easy to naturally attain.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Now grab a bunch of carrots. If the grocer doesn’t have any…shoot him too. Again, just kidding. Actually, to the degree that you can laugh at yourself and take yourself with a pinch of salt, so to say - in your life in general - the better your outcomes in personal development will be. I can feel a quotation coming on…<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Angels fly because they take themselves lightly</span></b><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"> (G.K. Chesterton)<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: medium;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 15px;">Ah (sigh). I needed that.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">The bunch of carrots acts like a turbo. To venture further into the rewards/pleasures you are moving towards, answer these 3 simple questions: <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">1.<span style="font: normal normal normal 7pt/normal 'Times New Roman';"> </span></span></b><b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">What does that carrot do for you specifically?<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e. I’ll feel energized. It’ll improve my confidence = 2 carrots<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e. To improve my health and fitness and enable me to exercise even more. To feel good about myself. To be proud of myself = 3 carrots<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e. Self esteem, self belief, more confidence to find my dream partner, to feel good in clothes. I can tighten up a few notches on my gun belt! = 5 carrots.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">These examples are just made up. I happen to know very confident, sexually attractive, healthy and extremely happy people who are carrying more weight than someone else would be happy with: So it’s a very personal thing. And remember this is just an example; you may be working on the goal of say... keeping a tidy house, or improving your outlook, or starting a business, or learning to play the piano. Whatever it is, large or small, the same things apply.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">If you want to put a turbo on the turbo just get sensory specific with all these outcomes and simply venture into the feelings of ‘How will it be when I have all of these?’ Notice how you feel when you imagine having them. Consider how your loved ones and others might be when they are around the new you. What differences would they and you notice? Put yourself – with your whole sensory experience: feelings, sights, sounds, smells, tastes – into imagined situations where the new you can experience the pleasures of the outcomes you decide would be good for both yourself and the people closest to you. The reason we include our loved ones in our goals is because at a core level we like to benefit others as well as ourselves, especially the ones we love. Allow your breathing and physiology to be naturally effected by the experience.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">To put a turbo on the turbo on top of the original turbo it’s a good idea to set a timeframe on when you will achieve these things. Make it realistic, achievable and fully believe in achieving it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Add another turbo: (How many is that now?) Be aware of the varying evidence that you know will be in place: proof beyond doubt that you are moving in the right direction and constantly achieving your goal. Remember this evidence: It will be a payoff as you are moving towards and achieving your goal over the timeframe. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Now to add the turbo of all turbos: While you are tuned into the feelings of the achieved outcome, you can turn up the juice and really vamp up the experience by just choosing to do so. Just go ahead and expand these feelings. Turn them right up! Really feel it! Remember to adapt your breathing and physiology to fit the feelings.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Now all you gotta do is give this all a symbol. That’s right…a symbol. An image that represents the outcome achieved and being enjoyed. This is like bringing in the best mechanic in the world - your unconscious process, which works great with symbols - to finely tune the engine of your goal.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">i.e. You see yourself smiling in a particular meaningful surrounding or place. Or it could be a triangle with a palm tree inside. Or a yellow circle with a green leaf inside. A sunset. A lake with mountains… whatever is the right symbol for your desired outcome and the attained feelings, let it be. This is vitally important and the ultra magic ingredient. The symbol is key.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">You then place your symbol in a space in your mind’s eye where you construct images. So if I were to ask you to imagine an egg with a purple yolk, where would you construct that image in your mind’s eye? That’s where you visually construct imagined things. That’s where you place your symbol and that's where it stays for future reference. Make it as big and compelling as you like. Then start shooting at it! Juuust kidding. <o:p>That's how you create new filters for your map of the world - remember my blog on beliefs? It's a direct new injection and request to your unconscious process of how you'd like your life to be and your unconscious will support you with it. </o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Now here’s something amazing that my good friend Ricky Gill shared with me. Stir this into the mix by saying affirmingly...<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Then while you gaze into and are delightfully linked with your symbol, ask yourself this simple yet incredibly magical question:<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">When you have your answer – which is inspired information - put your gun down and go do it. Whatever it is. If it was to take a walk, write, open a new account, call someone, start a plan, get to work, go somewhere, whatever it is just do it.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Once that’s done, re-engage with your symbol, let the feelings rise and expand again and ask that simple, magical question once again:<o:p></o:p></span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Loop the symbol/question sequence and continue tuning in and then taking inspired actions whilst making your way to your compelling positive outcome, which, by the way, may also be making it's way to you. The inspired, higher level answers you receive whilst using the symbol will accelerate the process and fire you towards your desired outcomes. Simple. Fact.</span><br />
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">And I guess it’s fair to say if all this doesn’t work, you can always shoot yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Enjoy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Thanks for reading<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;">Author of Bish and the Magic Bow & Arrow<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><a href="http://www.bishandthemagicbowandarrow.com/">www.bishandthemagicbowandarrow.com</a></span></span><span lang="EN-US" style="font-family: Arial; font-size: 11pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<br /></div>Simon Cairahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09231762833393095749noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6690142808129306896.post-50366964174707025652012-02-26T16:59:00.000-08:002012-02-26T16:59:14.971-08:00Beliefs<br />
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Quite an intriguing if not appealing thought. I seem to remember he was recalling something that he had learnt via the self-help guru Tony Robbins, and believe me I was listening real close. He continued, “And it’s us that make the legs for that fine and dandy tabletop.”</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">My goodness, I feel like I’m sailing now. One hand on the wheel, a chisel between my teeth and an old Columbustine world map in my other hand.</span><u><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><o:p></o:p></span></u></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">What? Nothing is real and I know nothing?! That hit my sails and stopped me in my tracks. I dropped my chisel, spilt coffee all over my map and let go of the wheel… Excuse me?</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">His words sunk in deeply and caused a chain of inner and outer enquiries, some enthusiasm, more uncertainty, sudden curiosity and a desire to understand – along with a compelling need to just turn and run away, right then and there.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">“We aren’t born with a set of beliefs, they form as we grow and interact within our homes, families, schools, religions, friends and neighborhoods. Your beliefs are neither right nor wrong and can be, whenever you decide the time is right, personally and individually explored by wondering whether they empower and enrich you or simply hinder and limit your life?”</span></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">In the matter of personal potential, our beliefs act as a door; open - to varying degrees - or closed. They may allow a clear way ahead, restrict to some extent, or block access. The closed door may even be locked. It may even have a rusty old lock, difficult to budge. The hinges may also be corroded and stuck, and in some cases we may even find the whole doorframe has been painted shut. Quite an impeding thought.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">‘Who did this to the door?’ we may enquire in disbelief.<br />‘What a fool,’ we might even conclude. In truth it’s simple. The closed door, rusty lock, stuck hinges and painted doorframe are </span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">all pieces of our experiences that we hold onto - the unquestionable proof that supports our beliefs. And they </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">are</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"> now </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">our</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"> beliefs. Whether we borrowed them, had them transferred to us, or built them ourselves, the door is as it is: Open, closed, stuck or ajar.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">What we require is a free-flowing door that can be easily opened to reveal the empowerment and potential that is there for us to behold and revel in. So…how exactly does the door become closed? Locked? How does the mechanism of the lock become rusty, the hinges stuck and the whole doorframe painted shut? More i</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">mportantly… how do we loosen the door? Remove that painted seal, oil the hinges, free the lock and then open that door? Well, there’s one thing I’d like to share with you first of all.</span><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Our beliefs are the doors. What we notice as </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">true</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"> </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">for us</span></i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;"> - what our filters allow through - becomes the locks and hinges. Our filters enable things through that support our beliefs and filter out those things that don’t. Our beliefs are always strengthened by our filters.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Effect: I notice everything to support this belief. I hear a conversation on TV whilst I’m doing my homework: A woman is talking about her bad man and how men are always bad (generalise). I go back to my homework and don’t hear her friend advocate the opposing view (delete). I notice boys scarpering from the vicinity of a shop: they probably stole stuff (generalise). I don’t notice the young guy across the road, kindly helping the lady off the bus (delete). I smell the stench from an alleyway. I don’t notice (delete) the sweet smelling flowers hanging outside shop fronts. I hear the angry shouts of a distant argument. I don’t notice (delete) the choral music coming from the local hall. I see a man crouching down, speaking to a child; he’s probably telling him off for being naughty (distort). I steal. I also do lots of good for others but I remember I’m a thief and I’m bad (generalise). I lie. I also tell the truth 99.9% of the time but I remember I’m a liar and I’m bad.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Effect: I notice everything that supports this belief. I notice my own and everyone else’s struggles. I delete the ‘thank you’ I get from the lady at the garage or the smile I get from the station attendant. I mentally distort a look my boss gives me into a look of disdain and generalise that every time I think things are going well, at least 3 bad things come along at once to put me in my place. I always seem to be able to busy myself and I work, work, work. In the little spare time I do have, I manage to watch TV shows and read books and articles that support ideas of struggle and mistreatment. I talk about such things with family and friends.</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-US"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Author - </span><i><span class="Apple-style-span" style="color: #444444;">Bish and the Magic Bow & Arrow</span></i></span></div>
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